How many times do we come across someone who does not know how to take a compliment gracefully? Have you ever encountered someone you have complimented and they have shyly declined your compliment saying, its probably nothing! What makes people think they don’t deserve being treated special? Or is it just a socially acceptable norm to gracefully decline something that should be welcomed?
I somehow feel that when one is graced with a genuine compliment, one should accept it graciously because possibly they deserve it. Possibly it is in them to shine and they are unaware of the fact. Possibly the other person has noticed something that they never considered an advantage. Quite possibly they are suffering from low self-esteem and are so used to being depreciated that they stop looking at themselves as novel. In that case, the compliment can actually turn into a gateway to self-discovery.
“You should never be surprised when someone treats you with respect, you should expect it.”
― Sarah Dessen
I have learnt (over the years) that no matter what, happiness comes from within. Everyday brings something distinct for us to look out for; it is for us to find what bring happiness to us. The more we look for it, the more we realize that it was always there, inside of us, in the first place. Creating love for self is the best labor one can put themselves in. I believe that a person who does not find love within is completely incapable of giving love to anyone else, as well. They may go about counseling the whole world about the importance of ‘individuality’ but they may still be someone who is insecure themself. How can you trust someone who does not love himself or herself in the first place?
“I do not trust people who don’t love themselves and yet tell me, ‘I love you.’ There is an African saying which is: Be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt.”
― Maya Angelou
So, go on! Love yourself. Love everything that makes ‘you’ complete. Love yourself in entirety. Smile for the world to know that you are shining from within. And in case someone walks up to you and tells you that you have a beautiful smile be sure to tell them its because you deserve it!
By: Kajal Kapur